Well, basically, I am in high school, first year (fresmen fdw )
Anyhow, there is girl from my old grammar school (and middle school) that I knew somewhere deep inside I had some sort of feelings for her, and recently they started showing their true colors. Basically, I need help; I am "different" when it comes to meeting girls, and I don't know how to approach her. I saw her today in the hall way, but I didn't have the balls to say "can we talk in priv for a min" or w.e so now im in need of help, i think i may love this girl. Not only that, but people used to say in my old school "we would look good together" and "perfect couple to be" but I never took that properly into account. I think we would look good together, but I am terrified of rejection and embarrassment. I need the following; "how to start it off", and a time chart of where me and her should be if all goes well. =p
first off, try to not to approach her as if your in love with her, and just think to yourself "I want to get to know her better", that may help reduce some nervousness.
How often do you talk to her, if at all?
If you don't normally talk to her, starting off with talking in private might be a little wierd. Start with just saying hey to her everytime you see her. It will expand from there once you become more comfortable.
If you already talk to her on a daily basis, then you should know a bit about her, and you should try and mention something about her looks good but maybe different (i.e. hair, shoes, or an entire outfit.. if you know what you're talking about).
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heres some advice. Just get to know her.
- see if you have a hobbies or interests in common.
- like crazyreb said get to know your on a regular basis.
Once you think your ready(which isn't to soon i hope)
Ask her out to somewhere such as the movies just as good friends. Thats my advice
I'm not sure what you mean by "different" about meeting girls...all of us guys get incredibly nervous when talking to girl we find attractive, that we don't have much in common with, everybody fears rejection on some level. Anyway, social environments are GREAT ways to get to know people on a very comfortable level. Ask her if she's going to the next sporting event (football/hockey/soccer) that your school is involved with. It's a public environment, and you're sure to at least see her there, and make it a point to just give a quick "hi" and leave it at that. Like what was mentioned before, look at this as a chance to make a new friend first, and let it evolve into more at a pace that's comfortable for both of you. here's how it should go
step 1: casual greetings as you pass her in the halls/mall/games etc, just to get her to acknowlege you're there. Nothing serious, just so she knows you're there
step 2: ask her if she's going to a place that you 2 may have in common ie. the sporting event or whatever the school has going on, if she is, great you'll see her there, and possibly even have a conversation
step 3: become friends, possibly meeting new people in her social circle, and if nothing else you have new acquaintences, who may be able to help you either with her, or whoever else you may be interested in later down the road.
step 4: best case scenario, you're going to movies together, hanging out at each others houses, spending time together outside of school, and creating a relationship.
Point is, her being your girlfriend should not be the main point of you talking to her. This way, you can actually form a relationship based on your friendship, not just what you think you know about each other. Hope this helps.
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Dont forget to have an exit strategy. Balance time with this new girl and with your normal buddies. Get her familiarized with them and you can do this at the same time. Dont go all defensive and not hang out with your normal buds because.. if it doesnt work then.. that would suck.
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dont be a pansy! if she gets all jittery, or if she gets hot, or if she gets all touchy then shes into you n wants to get in ur pants . i know from experience, may not be long term but hey my current girlfriend did all this n i asked her out after getting to know her n sitting next to her in class and she said yes. prolly not good advice lol.
1. CONFIDENCE is key. Sure your gonna be nervous as hell, but you have to appear at least comfortable to be around her or she'll bolt.
2. Don't rush it the event meeting advice is golden. In terms of schedule there is no set place to be by a certain time just make sure your both happy to be wherever your at and let things progress at a pace your BOTH comfortable at. It can't be all about her or you if you really want it to work.
Course this advice is coming from someone who's getting a divorce after 8yrs so take it or leave it.
xxApv320x wrote:1. CONFIDENCE is key. Sure your gonna be nervous as hell, but you have to appear at least comfortable to be around her or she'll bolt.
2. Don't rush it the event meeting advice is golden. In terms of schedule there is no set place to be by a certain time just make sure your both happy to be wherever your at and let things progress at a pace your BOTH comfortable at. It can't be all about her or you if you really want it to work.
Course this advice is coming from someone who's getting a divorce after 8yrs so take it or leave it.
And good luck!!!!
<-- Divorced from a 5yr relationship (about 3 and some change were actual legal marriage, rest was dating).
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